Friday, March 31, 2017

Parents: Do you know if your child is sexting?

First the questions we need to address; what is sexting? What is considered sexting? And what are the legal consequences?  
Sexting is the act of sending, receiving, and or forwarding risqué or sexually suggestive content via:
·         Text
·         Video
·         Photo
Sexting can also occur over social media site such as:
·         Facebook
·         Instagram
·         Snapchat
·         Twitter

So the big question is how do you as a parent have those conversations with your children about the dangers of sexting? It is a scary subject to talk about but here are some tips that can help you.

·         First, stay calm, take a breath you can do this!
·         Second, have open conversations with them about personal responsibilities, personal boundaries and how to resist peer pressure.
o   Let them know you are available to talk whenever and you won’t create judgements if they have and need to talk about it.
o   Show them stories of teens that have sent such photos and have a discussion about it, and how they would feel if this happened to them.
o   Ask them to consider if the person who is asking them for the photos, if they are also asking others for photos as well.
o   Don’t accuse them of sexting, but explain to them the dangers of sexting.
o   Set rules and expectations with having a phone and social media, and authorize what they are viewing.

Now that you have some tips on how to talk about sexting here are some facts on sexting to share with your children:
·         More than 50% of those who shared a sext shared it with multiple people
·         Nearly 1 in 5 sext recipients have passed the sext along to someone else
·         61% of those who sent a sext of themselves have been pressured to do so at least once
·         3 in 10 young people have been involved in sexting
·         Sexters are 4x as likely to have considered suicide in the past year than non-sexters

With that, what age is considered child pornography?
·         In Michigan child pornography laws apply to anyone under the age of 18. This can be confusing because legally at 16 one can consent to sex however they cannot send explicit photos of themselves via text or video. Explain that the difference is sex happens in private, and that sexting is rarely kept private.

Here are the legal consequences if caught sexting:
·         A teen who takes a sexual photo of himself or herself can be charged with manufacturing child pornography and this result up to 20 years in prison or a fine up to $100,000 or both.
·         If the teen sends that image and the receiver keeps that image the receiver can now be charged with possession of child pornography. The receiver can go to prison for up to 4 years and be fined to up to $10,000 or both.
·         If the receiver now sends this photo to friends which frequently happens this becomes distribution of child pornography and this result to no more than 7 years in prison and up to a $50,000 fine or both.
·         The teen could also be kicked out of school.


Sexting is becoming more prevalent now that teens have the technology to do so. It is our job as a parent to sit down with your children and have open conversations with them about this issue. It is an awkward conversation to have but there are tips for you on how to handle this issue and remember the first thing is to stay calm and take a breath you can do this. It is better to talk about it now than to talk about it after it has already happened and legal action has to be taken. 

By McKenzie Goss-Child Abuse Prevention Education Intern
CAN Council Great Lakes Bay Region
Social Work Student-Saginaw Valley State University


Suggested Reading: Thousand Words by Jennifer Brown

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